Is getting your baby’s ears pierced an act of child abuse?

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Is getting your baby’s ears pierced an act of child abuse?

Posted on 11 09, 2006 under Master Debaters by Noodad |

438762_nikki Last week at the mall I saw a kid, couldn't be more than a year old, getting her ear's pierced. She screamed bloody murder the whole time but it was ok—although she didn't like the pain, her parents were very happy.

Getting your ear's pierced hurts. Yet I frequently see little kids with their ears pierced. Clearly, the decision to pierce is being made by the parents, not the kids themselves.

Which brings us to this week's question…

Question : Is getting your baby's ears pierced an act of child abuse?

There are some topics that seem to fall into the consensus category: drunk driving is bad, guns kill people, Transformers are better than GoBots. But that only covers less than 1% of the decisions you and your spouse make towards the upbringing of your kids. The majority of issues tend to fall more in the gray area.

Here at Noodad.com, we take pride in delivering important advice for dads. But we realize that some of our advice is subjective. The collected readership surely have things to add and unique perspectives to contribute. That is why we are pleased to continue our weekly feature called the Master Debaters Question of the Week.

We encourage everyone (men and women) to weigh in—even if it is a simple one word answer. We hope a lively discussion can develop.

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Glenn 2 years ago 1 point
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I definately think its a choice that the child should make (so long as the parent as guardian doesnt have some major issue against piercings themselves). This way the little tyke has an oportunity to learn about choices and consequences in a fairly obvious way.

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Harry 2 years ago 1 point
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YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.YES.
Let\'s not even dive into the discussion of how RIDICULOUS these babies look with the earrings afterwards.

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FloridaMommy 2 years ago 1 point
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Yeah, I have seen that too and my DH and I have discussed it. I think if they are old enough to ask for it themselves, they can get it.

Otherwise it is just parading your kid like Jon Benet

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Iggyschlepp 2 years ago 1 point
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That\'s pretty much what we have decided as well. The child has to be old enough to come and request it. Making choices and learning to live with them.

Now I wouldn\'t go so far as to call it abuse so much as just bad parenting.

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Noodad 2 years ago 1 point
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Iggy, My belief is something like letting your kid watch an R rated movie when they are 10 is \"Bad Parenting\". Having someone puncture your skin and make you cry in pain before you even know what \"accessorizing\" means, is abuse.

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Ladydragonflagg 2 years ago 1 point
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Though I dont agree with the practice of getting babies ears peirced, I wouldnt call it abuse. Their are groups that do it for cultural or religious reasons.

But in our country its pain for the sake of vanity. I was discussing this with a friend and she pointed out that if you look at another point of view, a person with different beliefs could argue that circumcision is the same thing. We also do this for cultural and religious reasons. There is no real medical need for it, but it is accepted practice, and never really looked upon as abuse

So I would basically say that if it was my daughter I would wait for her to make the decision herself. But as far as other parents are concerned I cant say that I would condemn a practice that is widely accepted.

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Brandy 2 months ago 1 point
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I think it's child abuse to circumsise your child, there is actually a whole group of people who call that Genital Mutilation. I know that wasn't your point though but I thought I would add that, lol.

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Phoenix 2 years ago 1 point
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Apart from cultural or religious reasons, there are atleast some medical reasons that point towards the decision of circumcision. There are no such reasons for ear piercing.

Otherwise you would be able to go to the mall and get yourself circumcised at Snipping Pagoda!

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Twodad 2 years ago 1 point
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I wouldn\'t do it, but I won\'t go so far to call it abuse.

A Mom from my area was recently arrested for public intoxication at a local Mickey-D\'s. She had driven her kids there. That\'s criminal and that\'s abuse.

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Lisa 2 years ago 1 point
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Smacking your kids around is abuse
Leaving them unattended with the potential for harm is abuse. Calling them names,making them feel bad is abuse. Please don\'t put a prick to skin with pain that lasts a minute abuse.

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Thanatoz 2 years ago 1 point
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Agreed. To me \"abuse\" is excessive physical or emotional force or systematic, sustained, intentional cruelty resulting in immediate and physical/psychological trauma.

Getting your ears pierced is painful, sure. But no more painful than scraping your knees or getting your finger caught in a door or any of the usual childhood injuries one sustains.

As long as you\'re not telling your kid that she\'s has to get her ears pierced because she\'s bad inside, then it\'s just another experience.

That said, I wouldn\'t do it.

First of all, I think it\'s kind of a Mediterranean/Eastern cultural thing, and since we\'re about as WASP as it gets, it just ain\'t us.

Second, I\'ve always thought of body modification as something that should be undertaken by sane, consenting adults. Are you gonna make your kid get a \"Thug Life\" tat? Probably not. Same should go pierced ears.

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Thanatoz 2 years ago 1 point
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Oh God... no post-editing function?! This is gonna get ugly! :roll

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Brandy 2 months ago 1 point
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LOL

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Noodad 2 years ago 1 point
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But scraping your knees is an accident. Piercing ears is a conscious decision by the parents to afflict pain on their kids who have no say just for vanity reasons.

From Dictionary.com:
a‧buse /v. əˈbyuz; n. əˈbyus/
verb (used with object)
1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one\'s authority.

Sure, hitting your kids is worse. But just because one type of abuse is worse doesnt make the lesser type less than abuse.

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Charlie 2 years ago 1 point
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My wife didn\'t have her ears pierced when she was young, and was frustrated with her parents because she had to do it as an adult. She intends to pierce our daughter\'s ears in the first year...

I know the kid won\'t remember it, and it won\'t be a big deal to her... any more than a birth, the inevitable falls/stitches etc. as any normal child.

As a teenager, I pierced my own ears with a safety pin during my punker phase... so I don\'t think it\'s that big of a deal. 8-)

thoughts?
:p

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QSMama 2 years ago 1 point
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I had to stop Baby A from yanking out my own earrings. Can\'t imagine how quickly she would have ripped out her own...then swallowed or choked on the earrings...then needed plastic surgery to repair her earlobes....

Shoot, it\'s a good day when she doesn\'t (a) move a chair to the counter and eat of out of the sugar bowl, (2) remove the pins from the bottom door hinges, setting 100-year-old, 50-pound doors askew over her head, (3) tear the air-conditioning vents out of the floor and stick arms or toys in the vents. Why would I give her one more hazard? I already need five eyes and eight arms.

- L

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Christy 2 years ago 1 point
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I think that everyone is taking this way too far, I mean ABUSE. When we take them to get their shots, is that abuse too? When my daughter had her\\\'s done, she was asleep and didn\\\'t even cry. They are a part of her so she never touches them. When I took her the other day to get her shots, I felt terrible having to hold her down and watch the look on her face like what are you letting them do to me? Getting her ear\\\'s pierced, getting shots. She won\\\'t remember either one. Is either one abuse? I think not.

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Brenda 2 months ago 1 point
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I don't vaccinate my kid for that reason. I would never force my kid to do anything painful. I also think vaccines are bad for your body.

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Eva 1 week ago 1 point
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so is pertussis

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latiamh 2 years ago 1 point
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Piercing ears is not abuse. For those of you who have had your ears pierced at a young age, you may agree with me.
I got my ears pierced when I was four. I was rewarded with a slushee. The slushee was all that I remember. When my folks did it, it was more of a cultural thing.
My parter is from a very American and very Conservative family. They think that ear piercings are a sign of adulthood and if a girl had her ears pierced too young she may be \"loose\" or wild or something.
This is something that is either cosmetic or cultural.
It\'s not that big of a deal for people to get heated over.
It\'s not abuse.
It\'s just a matter of personal parental choice.

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Dino 1 year ago 1 point
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My girls both had their ears pierced at 3 months. They cried only for a minute. It is easier to take care of them when they are young, and my eldest didn\'t even know what they were until she was 2 year old. I don\'t know any >18yo female that doesn\'t have them done, so why not do it and get it over with. My boys (if any) will not have them pierced. Most people commenting against it are speaking with no experience. Abuse? common...

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Susan 1 year ago 1 point
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I had my daughter\'s pierced at 4 months because I hated it when I had my aunt pierce mine with ice cubes and a so called sterile (used a lighter to burn it clean) needle. I would never want my daughter to go thru what I did and I know since she will be alot like me....hehe...she definitely will enjoy them without having to remember the pain of having it done.

This is the ONLY thing I have done or will ever do that causes intentional pain. Since the pros are so quick about it, I didn\'t feel bad at all having it done by them, but I did feel bad about her very short crying after and I questioned myself for awhile, but this type of action would never happen again so for a once in a lifetime thing, I really don\'t see the big deal. Also, she has hardly any hair and having the earrings really helped from people calling her a him:)

Weather she will have wanted the chance to make up her own mind, well, she\'ll tell me when she is older but I believe she will have wanted them and like that I spared her the pain that her friends will have to go thru:)

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ann 1 year ago 1 point
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i think it is sad when babies have their ears peirced. it does not make them cuter at all. it almost looks like the parents dont think they are cute enough. babies are adorable how god mad them, not to mention it does hurt. if they want their ears peirced when they are older thats different and they will know why their ears hurt. i think it is abuse not to mention the posts that will irritate while they lie down .leave the baby alone ,she is cute enough.

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