Dad-Author Looking for Input from Other Dads

William Van Winkle, a dad of 2 from Oregon is writing a book called Everyday Secrets for First-time Dads and he needs your help. He is looking for people to register on his site and answer a survey so he can hear from real dads like you and I.

From his site:

Here’s the short and sweet truth: I want to know what you think about parent-related stuff because I’m writing a book called Everyday Secrets for First-Time Dads. This book will cover the things other daddy books miss. All those little taboos. All those “why didn’t someone tell me THAT” things the world seemingly never tells new dads to make their lives easier. A big part of this unveiling depends on survey input from hundreds of people, hopefully including you.You can also view some samples from the book on his site. Seems to be a great read for the noodad community.

From the section “The 10 Dumbest Reasons to Have Kids”

1. It will improve your marriage.

No, no, a thousand times no. There may be exceptions; I’ll grant that. Somewhere out there, I may yet find a couple that was on the rocks, had a kid, and then their relationship became all sweetness and light. But the odds are overwhelmingly against it. Children in general, and babies in particular, are a massive source of stress and domestic discord. (Again, more on this later.) If the two of you are at each other’s throats before kids, the tension with kids will likely be unbearable.

I can tell you that having children deepened my relationship with my wife. We have now shared more, had to communicate more, and work through more differences as a result of being parents. But does this make me love her any more? No. I respect her more, for sure. You can’t watch a woman give birth and not be in awe of her physical and emotional capacity. But I don’t think we love each other any more or less. Fortunately, the five married years we shared before children gave us that foundation we needed to survive the sleepless nights, fleeting blame games, and countless misunderstandings that accompany newborns. That foundation is what keeps our relationship solid—not the children.

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